Especially during the holiday season, this can be one of the hardest decisions a parent can make. The Internet can make it twice as confusing!
Sending a child to a residential program/school is a major decision. It is not one to be taken lightly or to be decided on overnight.
Usually a teen’s behavior has been slowly escalating and a parent knows that deep down things are not getting better. As much as you hope and pray that things will change, this is only typical teen behavior, sometimes it just isn’t.
With drug use and substance abuse rising – more dangerous and deadly ingredients being used, such as spice and inhalants, parents have reason to be concerned. It isn’t your marijuana of generations prior – it is so much worse and in many cases – addictive and deadly.
If you have reached your wit’s end and now surfing the Internet for help, remember, anyone can build a website. Anyone can put up nice pictures and create great content. You need to do your due diligence.
Years ago I struggled with my own teenager. I was at my wit’s end. I didn’t realize what a big business this “teen help industry” was. Yes, my child needed help, but what we received was anything but that. My story is a cautionary tale – not one to scare you into not using a program, however on the contrary, you have to get your child help, but you have to do your research in getting them the right help.
Here are some quick tips:
- Your child is not for sale, try to avoid those marketing arms selling you a list of programs that are not in the best interest of your child’s individual needs.
- Always speak with an owner or director – Someone that has a vested in your teen’s recovery. Their reputation is on the line.
- Wilderness and other short term programs are usually nothing more than a band-aid that will fall off as quickly as the program lasted. They are expensive camping trips and in most cases the Wilderness program will tell you at about 4 weeks that your teen will need to continue on to a longer term program. What? Yes, now you go back to the research board and worse than that, your teen will be deflated when he finds out he/she isn’t coming home in 6-9 weeks as they were lead to believe – and they will be starting all over again with a new therapist – new schedule – and new setting. Don’t get caught up in this “shuffle.” Start and finish with the same school/program.
- The average stay should be about 6-9-12 months, depending on your teen. Anything less is probably non-effective. Anything more, you may be creating abandonment issues in my opinion.
- Do you really need an Educational Consultant? Absolutely not. You are the parent and no one knows your teen better than you do – with a few tips, you will be able to make some sound choices.
For more helpful hint and tips, please contact www.HelpYourTeens.com for a free consultation. After the ordeal I went through, I created this advocacy organization to help educate parents on finding safe and quality programs.
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It’s summer and for parents of teenagers it can be a time of consideration.
What will your teen be doing this summer? Have you arranged for a summer camps? Community service hours? Volunteering? Or simply hanging out?
Parenting today’s teenagers is a challenge. Whether it is keeping up with technology or worrying about substance abuse, being a parent today is not an easy job.
If you suspect your teen is using drugs, drinking or engaging in any negative behavior, don’t be a parent in denial. Get the help they may need. It could be as you need a adolescent therapist or you may need to take the next step of residential therapy. Either way, you need to be proactive.
Parents’ Universal Resource Experts (P.U.R.E.) has over a decade of assisting families with troubled teens, and continues to expand. Join us on Facebook today.
Teens that are struggling with today’s peer pressure, experimenting with drugs and alcohol, and simply good kids starting to make bad choices. P.U.R.E. many very satisfied families that have used their services. Please take a moment to read some of the testimonials.
Are you at your wit’s end with your teen? School is back in session and your teen is either not attending classes or decided he doesn’t need school anymore – let’s just get a GED. Seriously – that is the way some teens are thinking now.
Generations prior, GED’s were frowned upon, and usually meant you had a child that was a juvenile delinquent.
Today we have many resources for parents to get their teens back on a positive road, but it takes time, determination and research to find that right program.
They will come under many names such as, Wilderness Programs, Therapeutic Boarding Schools, Residential Treatment Centers, Behavior Modification, Emotional Growth, etc….. It is important to realize what you are looking at and what you need for your individual teen.
In my prior Blog posts below, I have given you many tips – here are some more:
- Boot Camps – In my opinion, stay clear of anything punitive. This is not beneficial to building your child back up to making better choices. In many cases the teens come out with more anger and resentment than they went in with. Look for programs with positive stimulation and enrichment programs.
- Are you dialing toll free numbers that go to marketing arms? Stay clear. These are people that are more in tune with programs rather than your teen’s emotional needs. They are paid commission by selling a certain group of programs. You need to be sure you are speaking with a program directly – the owner is the best one, since that person will be responsible for your child’s success – and their reputation is vest on it.
- Are you on the East Coast and they are telling you that Utah or the West Coast is your only answer? Not true, there are many good programs are the East Coast. Of course choosing your program isn’t solely based on geographic, however it does make it easier to visit your child – and let your teen know you are involved. Especially for working parents – traveling to the West Coast from the East is at least a full days trip on both ends – leaving a limited time to visit your child.
More to come…. Visit www.helpyourteens.com for more information.
It doesn’t matter what your economic status is, it seems some teens from all financial backgrounds will try their “hand” at shoplifting. Why? Peer pressure? Is it cool? Part of the crowd?
What constitutes shoplifting? It doesn’t have to be only stealing, shoplifting can include changing price tags (which is harder to do now with the bar scans in some stores), consuming food or drink without paying for it, leaving a restaurant without paying, wearing items out of a store (again, hoping there isn’t an alarm tag on them) – this and more will land you in legal trouble if you are caught.
Teens seem to believe it could never happen to them – however more and more I am hearing from parents that have had to deal with this.
Why Children Steal and Your Role in Preventing Retail Theft
Very young children sometimes take things they want without understanding why it’s wrong. Elementary school-aged children know better, but may lack enough self-control to stop themselves. Most preteens and teens shoplift as a result of social and personal pressure in their lives. Here are just a few of the reasons why:
• Feel peer pressure to shoplift
• Low self-esteem
• A cry for help or attention
• The naïve assumption they won’t get caught
• The belief that teen stealing is “not a big deal”
• Inability to handle temptation when faced with things they want
• The thrill involved
• Defiance or rebelliousness
• Not knowing how to work through feelings of anger, frustration, etc.
• Misconception that stores can afford the losses
• The desire to have the things that will get them “in” with a certain group of kids.
• To support a drug habit.
• To prove themselves to members of a gang
Be an educated parent, you will have a safer teen.
For more information visit my website on Teen Mischief. If you have a teen that is at risk, please visit Parents’ Universal Resource Experts. Also visit Teens Health on Shoplifting.
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